Wow! It was a year ago that we arrived in Kinshasa. How time flys by! So, much has changed since then. The boys were so small! Chad weighed in at 17# and Ian at 11#. Now the are 38# and 22#! We have seen amazing physical growth this year. But even more amazing is watching them open their hearts to us, to trust us. This seems like a simple task to most people. But it was the hardest thing Chad has ever had to do. To open his wounded heart back up. I proudly say today that he has finally adopted me. I am very honored to be Chad and Ian's Mama. I thank God everyday for these boys.
I am celebrating our Family this week.
Here is a post that I wrote a few days after we arrived in Kinshasa.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
First, I apologize to all of those who have been checking my blog. I simply have had no time to write!
Well, Sunday night was the hardest day of my life. Leaving Livia and Parker was so hard. They are so excited but just did not want us to leave them. I didn't want to leave them at all. I was very mad at myself. I really wished one of us would have stayed home with them. We have called home several times and of course they are doing fine. But we all terribly miss each other and we can't wait to get home!
We arrived in Kinshasa on Tuesday around 2:00. Pastor Loma picked us up and drove us to the guest house. The boys arrived a few minutes after we did. I was so overwhelmed with emotion! My boys were right before my eyes! I could actually hold them. I held myself back for a few minutes and talked to them. Ian came right to me. He is so adorable. I then passed him on to Jamey were he fell asleep. I decided to spend all of my attention on Chad. Chad would cry everytime I looked at him. I believe they had been preparing him for this day. He knew what was going on and he did not like it. My heart broke for him. Pastor Loma and his family stayed with us for probably 45 minutes. I finally decided to hold Chad. He did not cry and hasn't ever since. When I finally gave him to Jamey, he fell asleep too. Daddy seems to have the magic touch.
We all slept together in a king size bed surrounded by mosqito netting. Using a flashlight, I felt like we were camping. Couldn't help but think that Livia and Parker would really like it! Wednesday we took the boys to the clinic. It was probably only 5 miles away, but took about 2 hours to get there. The boys were wonderful. The trip was a very long one still. With no air, high tempeture, high humidity and 11 people in a mini-van it sure was hot and sweaty! The boys only got blood drawn and will have a thorough examination next Monday. They had a very hard time finding a vein on Ian. It was very hard to see him in pain. But he was over that very quickly.
Ian has bonded with me very quickly. He wants to snuggle and give me kisses all the time! Yesterday, he would fuss if I was not next to him. He would cry and stop as soon as I picked him up. He is a very happy baby! He laughs and smiles and coos a lot and sings a lot too. He is also very active and jumps on me non stop. He's sort of hard to hold. He is very strong. Jamey found a scale here at the guest house and he weighs 11# and Chad weighs 19#. We aren't for sure how accurate the scales are, they appear to be very old. But they both are very small! Ian has been wearing 3-6 month clothing and some 9 month old. The clothes I packed for Chad 18-24 months have been big on him and he has been wearing Ians 9 month old onsies. I have a feeling both of the boys will be growing very quickly. Ian takes lots of formula and Chad is eating all of mine and Jamey's meals (at the guest house we are served our meals and only a small amount is prepared)! We are so excited that he has such a good appetite. He had been eating mostly bread. So, I am so pleasantly suprised that he likes green beans, greens, chicken and meat. He just will eat anything so far.
Chad hasn't cried at all. But he is not himself yet around us. When we are with Pastor Loma he lights up and his personality comes out. He smiles and talks (French and Lingala)! With only us he still talks, unfortunately we cannot understand him. He is much more subdued. It is such a big change for him and he has been through so much already. But he does love to snuggle! Will stand and try to walk with assistance. But he tires very easily. He had Malaria and I don't think he has ever recovered his full strengh since than. Well, they just rang the bell so I've got to go feed him some lunch. I will try to right more the next chance I get.
Well, I am back. Well fed happy babbies! They are both so easy. They never cry. Ian cries only when he is hungry and has as I mentioned cries when I leave the room. But he has started being fine with Jamey today.
Oh, and did I mention how cute they are! Here are some pictures!