* While at a restaurant Jamey and I were asked TWICE by two different people, "If we were going to keep them?", referring to Chad and Ian. Hmmmm.....This is just rude! Chad is 3 going on who knows what and he understands what you are saying!
* As one of the above people were leaving he dropped a ten dollar bill on the table. In response to our surprised looks, he said he really wanted us to have it. Hmmmm.....Is this because he just offended us by asking if we were going to keep our children?
* I had someone approach me the other day and asked when my due date was. I responded, "June 29th." His eyes got real big and then he loudly stated, "Wow! You are already SO BIG! Seriously, how big are you going to be by then!?!" Hmmmm.......this guy is just lucky we were in a room full of witnesses.
* Last week we took Chad and Ian to an appointment with a pediatric surgeon. The doctor comes in and reviews our paperwork, clearly stating we are their parents with the same last name. Talks to us awhile, hears the boys call us mommy and daddy. As she starts taking some notes she asks, "So, are the boys adopted?" If you could have seen Jamey's face, I was trying hard not to laugh. She explained that her children look very Asian like their father and people always assume that she adopted them from China. So, I guess she didn't want to assume that we hadn't some how miraculously produced to very black babies! Hmmmm......and she is going to possibly operate on my babies!
* Then there are the comments that have been made over and over by different people. Usually, they are something like, "Wow! When are you due? You are going to have your hands so full. You poor thing. I just don't see how you can do it." Hmmmm.......baby is coming whether you are comfortable with it or not! How about some support : )
* "Where are you going to put all those kids?" Is a common question. Hmmmm.....We do not live in a mansion or anything, but we are blessed to have 5 bedrooms and 3 1/2 baths. I see nothing wrong with a two or three of the kids sharing a room.
So suprise! We are going to keep all FIVE of our children! Yes, this is my third pregnancy and I am soon to be 35, so my belly is nice and stretched out! We are just as excited about number 5 as we were with 1,2,3, and 4! I guess God just made me crazy enough to believe that we can handle 5 kids!
Yes, lucky for me that God has blessed me with humor, as I just have to laugh at the things most people say :)
Oh! Stori I totally understand!!! People can be so rude and most of the time I don't they mean to be it's just no one taught them any better. I know you are and will continue to be an amazing mom to your 4+1 =5 wonderful children and maybe 6 or more if you and Jamey choose that path!!! Remember you are doing God's work because he has chosen you! That makes you a mighty special family!!
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ReplyDeleteWell said, Stori. There are just stupid people in the world. I hear all kinds of things as well about Ellie. And these same people populate....yikes!
ReplyDeleteWe've raised what is now 11 of our 12 kids in what at one time was a 3-bedroom house but now has 4 (I gave up my tiny laundry room to make another tiny bedroom), and the most we ever had living at home at any given time was 8 kids and 2 adults (and we only had 3 bedrooms at that time). Four kids shared one bedroom. We had a bunkbed in the biggest bedroom that was single on top, double on bottom and one of those square fold out chairs that makes a little bed, cheap and extremely uncomfortable... 2 slept on the bottom bunk, 1 on top, and 1 on the little chair bed. The next night one from the bottom went to the top, the one on top went to the chair bed, the one from the chair bed went to the bottom bunk, etc, and they rotated so no body had to sleep on the lousy chair bed but once every 4 nights. :o) We scrunched in at the supper table and sat on each other's laps to watch TV. The youngest slept with us until the next youngest came along and then slept with whoever was the oldest until the oldest left home...and so it continued. As they got older and there weren't so many here and there were plenty of beds to go around, more often that not come bedtime there was an empty bed somewhere, because they still sleep 2 or 3 to a bed. LOL Ronda Warren
ReplyDeleteWow, some of those comments really do make you wonder what people are thinking. I know I have been guilty of saying to someone, "You have your hands full!" But, hey, it is just because I had 2 boys and I know how full my hands were with raising them. I don't care how many you have, if you are a good parent, your hands (and heart) are going to be full! So, maybe that isn't such a bad thing after all :) And, you guys are such terrific parents, ( I know from firsthand experience what great kids you have) I know your children will never feel like they are burdens.
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People are morons! I had a friend (who is, to give her a modicum of credit, a Chinese national, where adoption is NOT common or accepted) ask me shortly after Daniel came home if we were planning to tell him that he was adopted. Hard to say whether my incredulous look or my shrieks of astonished laughter were a bigger giveaway...
ReplyDeleteJust keep telling yourself they meant well...
Hi Stori,
ReplyDeleteDeborah has told me so much about you and your beautiful family that I feel I know you. I do think Chad and Ian are the luckiest little boys in the world to have found a wonderful family like yours.
Wishing you well as your due date draws near and will be waiting to hear your good news. Take care and hugs to all,
Carole
My "favorite" comment someone said to me when I was pregnant with my 3rd, "You already have one of each so why would you get pregnant again?"
ReplyDeleteWe've always had a heart for adoption. Just recently I noticed that Congo was beginning to allow international adoptions. I pray one day God will allow us to adopt a sibling group from there. My husband was born and lived there until after high school and truly misses his "birth place". What a neat gift it would be to give children some link to their homeland as well as life and opportunity here. Blessings on you and your beautiful family and may all go well and smoothly on the 5th's arrival.
You are going to have your hands full, but it is going to be so much fun. I had 5 siblings growing up and it made for the most wonderful childhood. I love big families!! I guess I have been really lucky that I haven't had any idiotic comments about my son yet. I am just waiting for the day.
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